Perfect Just The Way You Are

You can’t wait for the world to be equal to start feeling seen, you have to find the tools within to find your voiceMichelle Obama

I am a real warrior in the fight for equality.

My belief is that we all have a right to be here and by that I mean, however you show up in this world, what ever race, religious belief, disability or sexual orientation, you belong.

We all matter.

I was born into a family full of conflict and almost suffocated by the religious beliefs of my parents, which in their entirety, were incredibly mismatched.

My Father was baptized a Methodist-a good Christian man. He hated the whole of the Japanese race, believing that they should be wiped out from the earth completely. Thankfully, his attempts to instill the same belief’s into us, his children, didn’t work.

It isn’t something that any one of us could even hold within our hearts.

Yet he was a good Christian man, wasn’t he?

My Mother who follows the Catholic religion, taught us to believe that if you aren’t christened and when it’s your time to depart this world, you won’t be allowed into Heaven.

I can not even fathom that statement out?

Like it’s a special club for special people?

Am I not special?

Are you not special?

Are we not made in the likeness of God?

Is God not love?

None of my children are christened.

What does that actually mean?

Well what it mean’s for me is, that we didn’t pay out heaps of money to have a christening party that was laden with special gifts from special people who probably never really had any kind of understanding in the whole concept of being christened.

Does that mean that I am a non believer?

Absolutely not and what I will say is that my beliefs have no conditions attached to them and that’s my choice too.

I was christened on a hospital ward when I was born because my mother thought that I was going to die and as she told me years later, she was terrified that if the priest wasn’t called to perform the ceremony, I wouldn’t get my special place with God.

Please forgive me if I offend you in anyway because it isn’t my intention and I really don’t believe that God would banish any child at all or for any reason.

Can you see how confusing it may be for a child to establish his or her own sense of self?

We all have a right to voice our own opinions, beliefs and question the world around us. There are times, during a session, I gently push boundaries with my client in order to allow them to open up to the possibility of new and other ways of thinking.

Not forcibly, just gently-an offering to look a little deeper into themselves and especially the young people who all too often seem to be afraid to step into their own power through fear of rejection.

We have no right to condition our children and they have a right to feel free to express themselves, be themselves, live life on their terms.

You may think it’s easier to keep quiet, reserved or even accept the things that you no longer want to accept through fear of judgement.

It really isn’t-it dulls your empowerment.

Have courage, become who you want to be, who you already are… and always have been deep within you.

At the end of the day, my hope is that we all want our children to be seen, feel worthy, know that they matter and I want that for you and for me too.

You matter and you are so worthy of free choice, the values that you hold and the right to feel equal to your fellow human beings.

And of course, you are not equal at all… you are all UNIQUE.

©All Rights Reserved – The boy in the chip shop 2019-20

Author: Michelle Denness

Wife, mother to three incredible kids and aspiring writer/poet. I am passionate about sharing personal stories to empower others and this space is for me to be open and free with my thoughts. This is my journey...

4 thoughts on “Perfect Just The Way You Are”

  1. I didn’t think I was prejudiced until I studied WWII history and ran into the way the Japanese treated their POWs, at least the ones who ended up being tried for war crimes. This was heightened because the Wilson family had been told that one of their sons was a prisoner in the Pacific. Another brother, Donald, had been in the Navy several years and wrote home that you couldn’t trust the Japanese, having encountered so many at Pearl Harbor even before the war. Uncle Don also survived the sinking of his ship at Yorktown, and months later he was on the crew on other ship hit by a kamikazi attack, Well, he eventually bought Japanese pickup! I thought if he could forgive the Japanese, I could as well, so I have.

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