What story do you tell yourself?

At what point in your life did you start putting limitations on yourself?

Can you remember?

My first memory of limiting myself was around the age of four, believing that I couldn’t dance as well as another child and I remember having a bad feeling in my tummy.

Four years old.

How did I even know or understand how to feel that kind of emotion?

In the first years of our lives, our mind is like a sponge and it soaks up tall of the beliefs and values of our main caregivers who begin to sculpt us in one way or another.

If you are telling yourself stories that limit you in any kind of way then you might be interested to know that those stories, might not even belong to you!

Think about that for a minute!

What stories have you told yourself over and over again throughout your life?

Do they limit you or expand you?

The stories that I’ve told myself continuously, have held me back from living life fully and have caused a great deal of sadness for a long time;

I am ashamed of myself, I’m not good enough, I hate myself, I should know better, why didn’t I do better, I could have been, I should have been. I don’t deserve…

And I am reminded of the stories that both of my parents quite possibly told themselves –

I am ashamed of myself, I am not worthy enough, I hate myself, I don’t deserve to be loved, I don’t deserve to live…

and

I am so ashamed of myself, I am not lovable, I am not good enough, I deserve this, I can’t leave, I can’t change it, I have to accept it…

Do you see any underlying familiar patterns?

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See how it works?

My expectations for my own life were embellished with my parents self sabotaging stories and beliefs.

They knew no better.

They did their best.

It doesn’t have to be that way and when you wake up to the idea that you have the choice to change your story, no matter where you are currently in your life, then you will know and understand fully that your story will either hold you back or propel you forward.

Embrace who you are and from this moment onward’s, change your story if it doesn’t serve you any longer.

How empowering for you to know that maybe you’ve been living your life from somebody else’s perspective and now you can CHANGE it to what ever you desire.

In gratitude.

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